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No team is perfect, but that doesn’t mean it couldn’t be better.

I wanted to create a series of articles to encourage airsoft players to form an airsoft team or, at least, find ways to help improve it.

This article provides insight of real team leaders in their own words – giving both the highs and lows of their experiences running an organization.

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Before you begin…

This article has been copied and re-written - I am not the original author.

The context of the information has been changed to emphasize how leadership plays a critical role towards the failure or success of an airsoft team. Aside from these contextual changes, the quotes and research provided are 100% real and accurate.

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Life as a Team Leader

About 15% of players have been team leaders at one point or another. In a recent survey, I asked some of these players to talk about their experiences and to describe pain-points and lessons learned. About 280 respondents wrote about their team leadership experiences. What the player narratives make clear is that being a team leader is tough, oftentimes a thankless job where moments of satisfaction are very memorable but rare.
Leading a team is very rewarding, watching it grow and thrive, being respected by your members as a good leader. Politics and folks leaving the game eventually ruins the experience. Overall it was very fun, time consuming and an emotionally exhausting experience. Not sure if I would do it again.
I’m hoping that bringing their stories together here can serve two goals. First of all, the disparate experiences do reveal common pain-points that some respondents suggested potential solutions for. Players who are currently team leaders or are thinking of becoming team leaders might be able to glean some helpful information from them. And secondly, the experiences of these players highlight the complex, emergent properties of play in a networked environment. When you are the leader of a team of 50 players, gaming can become more stressful than your daytime job.

You Can’t Please Everyone

Many team leaders described how they tried to be everyone’s friend and tried making sure that everyone in the team was happy. The most common lesson that respondents learned was that it’s simply impossible to please everyone.
The toughest thing about being a team leader is maintaining relationships with all of your members on a personal level, and realizing that no matter what, you're not going to please everybody.
The most valuable thing I have learned from playing the role of a team leader is one akin to life: No matter what you do there will always be some folks that do not like you.
One reason why this is the case is because team leaders do not have the resources to make everyone happy. And in fact, trying to do so creates a culture of asking the team leader for more.
God damn, people don't listen. I hated it. They are so whiny and expect you to do exactly what they say and give them what they want. Balancing the needs of 50 people suck... I won't do it again. I don't even want to be an officer. Takes all the fun out of the game.
But the main reason you can’t please everyone is because of the sheer diversity of needs and motivations in any group of people. Different team members are in the team for different reasons and derive satisfaction from different things.
The toughest part of being a team leader is that my team is comprised of people who have great personalities and get along really well, but are a real mixed bag of playing styles. Trying to come up with goals and content for people like that, people who are all my friends, but have a million different goals, has been a really stressful balancing act. On top of which, I am a casual player who has a busy job and a RL of her own, and can't be on every night of the week to make sure everyone is happy. Being a team leader has taught me about personality types and how to manage people more then any job I've ever worked on. While its not always a fun lesson, its definitely the most valuable thing I've gotten from the game.
The toughest thing about being a team leader is dealing with very disparate personalities among the members. Our members are older, have jobs and families … Because they are a more mature group they have stronger personalities and opinions. Occasionally this leads to conflict, either in how things are being done or how people are being treated by other team members.
Another feature of the demographic exacerbates this problem. Groups in real-life workplaces are typically composed of people with similar backgrounds, experiences, and training. Being a leader at college means leading people between the ages of 18-22. And the new recruits at big consulting firms every year are eerily similar people. But being a leader in airsoft means leading people between the ages of 10 and 70 - some have never had a job, some are professors, some are retired grandparents, while others are veterans. Pleasing everybody has never been so hard.

Mediating Conflict

In any situation where people have different needs and motivations, conflicts will arise. Inevitably, the team leader will be asked to become the mediator.
The toughest thing is playing mediator. A team can become like a small community or a family and with that comes bickering and squabbles that can break up the harmony of the team. It's important to be able to maintain peace and harmony among members so that fighting and bickering doesn't destroy the team. People tend to leave if teams if they get too 'political'.
For many team leaders, mediating conflict becomes stressful due to their petty nature and the time it takes to resolve these constant conflicts.
The toughest thing about being a leader is people want you to solve their problems. You become their surrogate parent. It's analogous to running a business or any other organization in that respect. Actually helping them solve a problem or three is rewarding, but for me that pleasure is rapidly overwhelmed by the silliness of most of their problems.
However, there is an awful lot of hand-holding and personal conflict resolution that you have to do. I know, in my first team, I would find myself dealing with interpersonal player problems for 1 to 2 hours a night. I knew it was time to change when I found myself playing elsewhere - just to play without team headaches.
These conflicts tend to be particularly stressful because of the existing friendships and ties within the team. Because team leaders are friends with many players in the team, these disputes oftentimes involve one or more of their friends.
The toughest decision has probably been so far, was when a couple of my friends had a fight, and the fight went that far that the both members would resign if I wouldn't do anything about it. In the end I decided to boot the other member, mostly because of his way of handling things amongst the other players as well.
The toughest thing for me is the Constant demand and pressure from team mates, and conflicts between IRL friends and teammates in airsoft. Being the constant 'Anvil' those conflicts Hammer on can be a real pain.
As several respondents noted, being fair and impartial was the most important aspect of mediating these conflicts.
Hmm the most valuable lesson learned... Being able to talk with all kinds of people, great communication skills really is the most important aspect of the leadership. Keeping the head straight when listening to people and solving their disagreements without getting personally involved. Actually my skills as a mediator increased a lot from being a team leader.

A Firm Hand

Many respondents noted that laying down a firm hand was important. Because many teams start off as small, casual and friendly teams, team leaders oftentimes feel conflicted when it comes to disciplining team members.
On the personal side, it is toughest for me to punish an existing team member, especially with the sanction of removing them from the team. I play the game for fun, and want other to have fun as part of our team. When we have to come down on someone, it makes the game less fun for everyone, especially that person. Still, sometimes it has to be done for the good for the team.
The most difficult thing was removal of someone that I had come to call friend because they wouldn't comply with team rules and code of conduct.
A common theme that arose was the uneasiness in learning that sometimes you have to be tough and say no. The following two players describe this transition in their leadership experience.
The hardest thing for me was learning to say no, or to draw the line and be tough. When I began, I was very worried about pleasing people, and knocked myself out trying to make everyone happy. Over time I got much much tougher - learning to crack down not only on jerks, but on my friends. Having experienced a few very messy team-removes, including two occasions where in my anxiousness to be 'fair' and give everyone a hearing, I delayed team removes for so long that the problem person had a chance to really go to town in stirring up team drama. I started to think of team removals like surgery, do it clean and quick, and it might not cause hemorrhaging. Sometimes it is better to be firm as soon as you see a problem. It isn't fair to the team to let a drama queen or manipulator build a power base before you deal with them.
It took me some time to realize that as by nature I detest conflict and try to defuse situations by talking them through, however when leading a airsoft team there simply isn't the time to sort things out as 'touchy feely' as you'd like, and many seasoned airsofters simply don't want to be treated that way. I made more than a few mistakes. I put up with far too much 'drama' when I should have stomped it out much quicker. I was a little tentative to use my authority at times when I should have been much more confident in my position. I allowed personality conflicts within the team to consume far more of my time than they were really worth. Overall it was a draining experience but a very valuable lesson in leadership - unless you lead you aren't a good leader.
Other team leaders agreed that delaying these hard decisions tends to make things worse, and that problems tend to fester if they are not dealt with.
The toughest thing about being a team leader is keeping everyone in line and kicking out or penalizing people that you like on a personal level, but have transgressed one too many times. The most valuable lesson I learned from being a team leader is that if you give someone an inch they will take a mile. The experience drove me much farther to the political right.

Den Mother + Bitch Goddess

At the same time, several respondents articulated the duality of being a team leader. It is not easy to be friend and leader at the same time.
A team leader has to be den mother and bitch goddess in one. You have to be prepared to lay down the rules and abide by them, while at the same time, taking care of everyone in your team. It's a lot of work and it's a really fine line to walk along at times.
The most valuable lesson I've learned from being a team leader is: You'll never be everybody's friend, and wholly expect half the team to have it out for you. There are two sides to being a team leader. There's your social side, and your leading side. The social side is everybody's friend; the leader side gets things done. You have to break eggs to make cake, so to speak.
The notion that team leadership was a form of parenthood echoed among other respondents.
Well it sometimes was like being a parent of 15 children ;)
And this aspect of being a team leader also produced its unique set of challenges.
The hardest part about being a team leader is listening to people's real life problems. I am sort of a 'mom' to people in the team and a lot of them confide in me. I listen to some really sad stories and it's very difficult to hear them, they effect me greatly. Probably the most difficult was when a 27 year old woman in the team told me she had terminal breast cancer and that she just needed to talk to me because she was 'so scared'. I think the toughest part about hearing things like that is the realization that these folks had to confide in someone that they don't even know - I feel so bad that they don't have a real life friend or family member that they can reach out to.

In and Out

One final pain-point that emerged was the difficulty in picking the right people for the team as well as the difficulty in kicking people out of the team. Several team leaders lamented that they oftentimes do not have the resources to screen potential team members.
Probably the most memorable experience has been inviting players to the team and then very quickly realizing it was a mistake (ie the person is annoying, greedy or something like that) and then having to deal with the stress of kicking them out or keeping them in. Also had a few similar experiences that were reversed (ie people I was very very skeptical about adding because say they had a bad rep) turned out to be great and generous. Best lesson from this is being careful in judging people - not to be to quick to judge and also diplomacy in getting rid of people is quite a challenge, while maintaining morale.
The worst of these cases would deliberately use the team for their own persona gains and had no intention of staying with the team.
Toughest thing about being a team leader is when new people come to the team with a hidden agenda of leaving the team after they used the team for their personal gain. This leaves a bad situation in the team since other people spent their time helping those people out. Best lesson learned is help those in team that help others. My team does everything together!
I started off with high expectations and slowly got worn down by lack of support and the draining of your time by some members who rarely appreciated your efforts. These members usually added nothing to the team but demanded both support (assistance in leveling, questing, items, gear, crafting etc) and also constant advice and information. These people either left to join a new team at some point or would stop playing without any warning and hence made you feel less inclined to help them unless you knew and trusted them.
And as we’ve seen already, kicking people out is difficult for many team leaders because they are uncomfortable with taking on a disciplinary role. But for some players, having someone leave their team is sometimes an emotional loss.
The toughest thing and at the same time, the most valuable thing was to learn to let go. When it was time for someone to move on to another game or monarchy (by their choice), it was time for me to be gracious and supportive.....difficult things in Asheron's call where my personal status and experience points were directly tied to the number of people playing under me. I knew that when I became monarch but it wasn't often easy. It was the most valuable thing because those actions maintained relationships, which are more important (although less tangible) than experience points. It really is 'just a game' so it was valuable to keep that perspective and not focus on the loss.

Make Rules. Follow Them.

As respondents discussed their difficulties in leading teams, two important guidelines emerged. First of all, team leaders highlighted the importance of having ground rules, making people aware of them, and being consistent with those rules.
I learned to NEVER back down from the established rule-set of the team and to kick out those who will not work within the system we all agreed upon.(even if the system needs changing, people need to follow the established procedure to bring about that change).
Be consistent. NEVER deviate from your charter. Never assume that a conflict is a single dimensional issue. Get all the facts and then make your decision. Never jump to conclusions. Always be honest. NEVER show any favoritism. Everyone in the team is on equal standing with you.
You can only be consistent if you have pre-established rules. And these narrative suggest that it is this consistency that makes conflict resolution and discipline far easier to deal with.

Delegation

Secondly, there is only so much one person can do. As a team grows, it becomes impossible for one person to deal with everything that happens.
I found the toughest thing about being a team leader was the fact that you are supposed to be 'everywhere' at the same time to help all you members. One way to avoid that is to have 'officers' in the team who can help you.
As the following players have learned, team leaders need to learn to promote trusted team members to officer roles and delegate duties to them.
Without a doubt, the most difficult and the most crucial thing for any team leader to do is to find highly qualified and committed officers. Very, very few people have the playtime and the motivation to be able to do everything themselves over an extended period of time. Excellent officers are a must to ensure the longevity of a team. Every time I've been in a team that had taken a turn for the worse, it has been because of a lack of quality officers. I think that lesson can transfer to all areas of life as well. If you can find good people who are trustworthy and committed, keeping them around you can enrich your life in ways you've never thought possible.
One of the toughest experiences as a team leader is to find players in the team that are dedicated to the game and the team. Because as a team leader you need officers to help you run the team as smooth as possible. Because the team is the members in the team. So as a team leader i need to promote people to officers that help me create an active and fun team to be a member of.

Obligated To Play

Now that the difficulties and complexities of team leadership and management have been laid out, it should not come as a surprise that many respondents described their game-play as an obligation. For many of these players, there simply was no longer time for “play” in the game.
It's tough that after a while you just feel that you have to log on so that you don't let down the other people in the team, sometimes even if you are not really in the mood to play the game. Sometimes I neglect 'doing my own thing' in the game because I think it's part of my duties as a team leader to help other members if they got questions or can't solve problems on their own.
The toughest thing for me, about leading a team was just showing up. I never wanted the job, but I felt obligated to maintain the team I loved. I spent an average of 4 hours a day replying to voice mails and e-mails while writing up announcements for the website. I was forced to attend every event and function I was invited to, to keep up community relations. Not to mention team meetings or any impromptu meetings that came up. Whatever time I had left was used up dealing with the inevitable daily team issues ... So I got maybe one to two hours a week for myself.

More Work Than Their Real Jobs

Some players described their game-play more explicitly as a second full-time job.

After becoming a team leader I found that I had taken on a second full time job. Creating a nice website was a pain and was time consuming. Then came trying to plan games that the people in our team could all attend (too much variation in style), trying to keep people interested, and recruiting new people. It was way too much work.
The single toughest thing about running a team is managing people. It can quickly turn into a serious job. You have to referee disputes, come up with events, loot rules, and organizational structure, recruiting. In short, running a team is a lot of work, just like managing people in a real life position.
Others lamented that they escaped into a fantasy world only to be doing their day-time jobs again, the difference being that they didn’t receive pay checks in this fantasy world.
Being a team leader is a bit more responsibility than I enjoy in a game. If I wanted responsibility I wouldn’t be hiding from the real world ;). It may also that I work as a PR professional and being a team leader feels a little bit too much like I’m at work.
The toughest thing about being a team leader is finding the middle ground between all the members, and being able to keep the group entertained at the same time. Being a team leader is like being a manager at work, only without the paycheck. It's frustrating but rewarding to lead a group and see it function and grow, but it's a pain in the rear more often than not to get it to that point.
The following narrative draws out an unsettling question. What happens when our leisure activities become more work than our day-time jobs? After all, how many of us get to lead people in real life?
I do not regret it at all although I doubt I will do it again anytime soon: during that time, I was leading 10-12 teams (via an alliance) which meant I was indirectly touching hundreds of people. I was definitely having an impact on the event as I always brought up conflicts and difficult situations that players might encounter while playing at the meetings, to make sure our alliance roughly shared similar policies, and obviously, so many people roughly sharing the same rules would have an impact on the others. The toughest thing about being a team leader is that it is really a job, managing all the conflicts and it takes huge amount of time and you receive no thanks for it.

Acquiring Leadership Skills

One theme that has flowed through many of the narratives we’ve seen is that people have learned important leadership and management skills from their game-play experiences. After all, leading people involves many of the same skills regardless of where it happens. Several players noted how these new skills have helped them outside of the game.
Being a team leader has effected my RL ability to lead people and stand up and do what is good and needs to be done. I have received numerous promotions at work into leadership positions and I make almost 8 times more now than when I started WoW last year.
I learned several things; I could manage events for a few hundred people, I could mediate agreements, I began to notice traits in individuals which where helpful in predicting what they were most likely to do next or likely to be interested in. I learned to delegate authority without releasing responsibility. I am very proud to say that my experience strengthened my diplomatic skills which had never been a strong point prior to my experience. I also learned more about the internet, building sites, moderating forums that I didn't know before.
These examples highlight games as places where the opportunity to learn important skills emerges, without prior planning by explicit teachers, and without a set curriculum. Airsoft games do change people, and fortunately, those changes aren’t always towards mindless violence or aggression. It is unfortunate that so much of the current media attention on airsoft, with the incessant finger-pointing at addiction and violence, distracts us from the far more interesting ways in which games can affect and change people.
Most valuable lesson is that realistically, its not whether you win or lose, or even how well you play the game, but who you meet, the relationships you form, and the personal growth that happens as a result of meeting and playing with people from cultures that can and do significantly differ from your own, and even if they don't, just learning of different attitudes and approaches to everything from the game to life in general.
In being a team leader for most of my 6 years of playing, I have learned a great deal about what power means in a gaming environment; compassion, understanding, organization and cooperation are required, and I have become a better person for my experiences. My personal journey has been largely through my interactions with people who are intelligent, understanding, creative, supportive, skilled negotiators and good friends. We have people from all walks of life in our team, and everyone has much to contribute to our ephemeral social fabric; we are all in the same team by choice, and I am honoured to be among them. I may 'Lead' but really ... I learn and I follow by example.

The original article was posted on the Daedalus Project on March 20, 2006
Source: http://www.nickyee.com/daedalus/archives/001516.php

The original content was written about Massively Multiplayer Online Games (MMOs) - some MMO terminology throughout the article has been swapped for a airsoft terminology.

 

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